馬庭正 ([info]r_ness) wrote,
@ 2008-04-26 02:46:00
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Current mood: touched

Thought for the night.
Community is when they give a shit whether you show up or not.


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[info]awfief
2008-04-26 06:55 am UTC (link)
*nod* My first connotation of "community" is more along the lines of "open source community", so my brain translates your "community" to my idea of "tribe".

But.....hell yeah.

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[info]tyellas
2008-04-26 07:44 am UTC (link)
Nail. Hit. On. Head.

This also sums up my concerns about my local social network right now - they're all very "eventy", I rarely get told that someone wants to hang out with me in particular, and I truly wonder if they'd care if I didn't show up...

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[info]meepodeekin
2008-04-26 12:30 pm UTC (link)
Don't try that experiment unless you are really willing to find out the answer. I learned that the hard way.

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yeah
[info]cthulhia
2008-04-26 06:08 pm UTC (link)
it sucks to find out you're not really part of the community.

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Re: yeah
[info]meepodeekin
2008-04-28 02:27 am UTC (link)
No kidding.

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[info]denyse
2008-04-26 09:46 pm UTC (link)
Of course, the people who get the most worked up if I don't show up are the people at work...
One time, someone at work was so concerned when another guy didn't turn up for his shift that they actually sent the police around to his house after he didn't answer his phone.
Turned out to be a scheduling error and the guy was in central america at the time. Oops.

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[info]denyse
2008-04-26 09:47 pm UTC (link)
And of course, work's concerned because someone has to do the work!

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[info]r_ness
2008-04-27 02:50 am UTC (link)
I'll be the first to agree that the workplace is also a community. Sometimes dysfunctional, sometimes actively hostile...but a community nonetheless. :)

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[info]muffyjo
2008-04-27 04:11 am UTC (link)
Expressing a sense of 'mattering'. My friend [info]kerri9494 once pointed me at a fantastic article on it from a conference she attended. (Damn, I hate it when I don't properly attach memory keywords.)

The gist of it was something to the effect of mattering being the one thing that we need. It doesn't matter who, where, when, etc, we need to have a sense that we matter in this world. And not only that, that we matter to someone. One of these days I have to go back and start tagging my posts.

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[info]signsoflife
2008-04-28 02:51 am UTC (link)
Honestly, to me that's more friendship than community. Community is when they'd like you to show up and are happy when you do. Friendship is when they want you to show up, and are unhappy when you don't.

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[info]gravitrue
2008-04-28 06:52 am UTC (link)
One of my definitional rules of thumb is that a community is a group large enough to contain two people who hate each other's guts. So I'd go more with "notice when you show up" as opposed to "give a shit" or "like you to show up". And that noticing is collective, not individual; not everyone has to notice if you show up or not, just a chunk of people.

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